There are people who have things I wish I had.
Yet, I am jealous of no one.
Here are three of my reasons why:
1) What God gives to others is God's business.
I don't know what their purpose in life is. I don't know what resources and relationships they need in order to fulfill their purpose. I don't know what prices were paid and what compromises were made to acquire what they have. I don't know what they've been through. I don't know what their secret struggles and private problems are. I don't know what it's like to feel their emotions, think their thoughts, or live their lives. I have no solid ground to stand on as a basis from which to judge other people's worthiness of what they have.
2) My business is to make the most of what God has given me.
I know that I live in a universe of abundance. I know that my ability to experience the fullness of that abundance depends only on my receptivity to it. I know that someone else's well-being doesn't preclude my own. I know that my life has a unique purpose and an irreplaceable role in the evolution of humanity. I know that I already have everything I need to begin fulfilling my destiny. I know that I am the only one who can stop me from becoming who I want to be.
3) Jealousy is too expensive.
Being jealous requires me to see myself as a victim of lack and limitation. I can't be jealous of what another person has without losing touch of the appreciation, hope, and excitement I feel over the opportunities inherent within my own life. That's a big cost to pay. I can't afford it because I've invested all my energy in the opposite way.
What about you? What are your thoughts on jealousy?
What you describe above I call it understanding your normal. And in my opinion first two points put a seal to it why one should not be jealous of anything. See the thing is all the unnatural “garfitri” thinks will come from outside which in simple language we say “dimag sy sochna”. But the point is as you describe in your article as well is that if a person understand it’s normal by normal I mean “the frequency of understanding things” “the intellectual capacity of understanding his/her reason of being human and alive” then he will never get jealous of anything. Just the same way mantely challenged people also understand things but “a crazy person has a problem that their normal are changed” and the society do not understand their normal. You have to go to their frequency of understanding to see what the level is they are thinking to. There whole norm believe system are changed and in most caseses upside down. But the point is getting jealous of anything means that you are interfering into Gods business. And going away of your normal point of understanding. Which is garfitri
ReplyDeleteWell Anem i must deeply appreciate your optimistic approach on the three things you have mentioned above and i wish you meet all good people in your life, ameen.
ReplyDeleteFor the first two things you described above, is ample for anyone who possess at least some level of understanding and mostly people would agree to it, even i do in desperate terms. All of the above three define only one thing that is jealousy; however it seems that their persuasion sounds different from each other.
Let's just take the third one which says jealousy is too expensive. But wait, can you define what is competition? Why you compete? Can you just let the competitor take your applause away, by simply saying I am not jealous of you so take it?
You are very true that why to waste energy in which you burn your own blood, very true i agree. But take the other side of the picture; it is the jealousy that makes you do something extra and out of the box, the "wow factor".
Let’s assume that you are the only employee working in your office and your boss likes your work, as he knows your potential and always praises your work. But the moment your boss hires another employee and he praises her/his work in front of you and rejects yours, what would be your reaction? This is where the jealousy starts and it turns into competition, as far it is healthy competition then your boss will enjoy being a part of it but when it turns to reaction between you two then your boss must soon find a way to select one from you two.
So in my view you compete because of jealousy, by doing work proactively by excelling and reaching your targets before others. So everybody is this world is jealous of something, someone or the other, some react instantly and some pretend that they are not jealous.
Its my view and according to some of my little experience:-)
A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity.
ReplyDeleteRobert A. Heinlein